Sex. Sex. Sex.
One of the biggest complaints I have about the gay culture is what seems to be the focus on sex (or “fun”). Whatever the reason (I’ve heard so many times the lame excuse that it’s because men are naturally thinking about and drawn to sex), it presents a challenge to someone like me who is looking for a serious, monogamous relationship.
Along with the focus on sex stuff, there’s also the high priority put on physical appearance (which I’m told is also happening in the straight dating world). This one seems to make more sense given the popularity of things such as Tinder, Bumble and Grindr.
I appreciate in the Bible where it says that man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart. What a great perspective for not only finding a mate, but also for loving people in general.
I also see this in bullying, where kids and adults are harassed for physical reasons. Too bad bullies cannot take just a minute to see the beautiful hearts inside.
I am also one of those people who tends to look at outward appearance when it comes to criticizing myself. It’s not too hard for me to start along the path of depression when I start comparing my physical appearance to someone else.
While we focus on the outward appearance and exercise to become fit, perhaps we should do a “heart check” on the inside.